I remember vividly standing at our wedding ceremony, in front of our guests on August 27, 2011, braiding three beautiful cords together – (The Cord of Three Strands Ceremony).
Each strand of cord had its own colour and symbolic meaning. The gold represented God, the purple represented the groom, while the white represented the bride.
The braiding of the cords symbolized the fact that we had given God the authority to be at the center of our marriage and the union of the three (God, the groom and myself) would be able to withstand any challenges the marriage would face. In other words the three forces combined would ensure that the marriage did not fall apart.
There have been times in my marriage that I have seen clear attacks by the enemy to destroy the union. He loves to attack us individually, with the hope that like a virus his influence will also affect the other partner. But with every attempt, one of us has always been there to help the other to fight the attack; to comfort, encourage and pray the other through the challenge being faced.
There was this one instance however that both of us were attacked. It was the worst feeling. We had let our guards down and he struck us both off our feet. We felt helpless and somewhat clueless; we didn’t know how to get out of the rut we were in. That night the third party in our marriage made His presence and purpose evident in our marriage.
As we cried out to Him to come to our rescue, God started to minister to us. As we prayed, He filled us with His peace and His comfort. He removed the confusion we felt and we were restored to fight in the attack we were in. Instead of being broken apart we were strengthened.
The principle of The Cord of Three Strands Ceremony is based on the scripture found in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, “Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”
This concept is not only applicable to married couples but to everyone in this journey called “life”. Whenever we find ourselves feeling discouraged, disappointed, hurt, bitter, overwhelmed or confused, we normally feel alone and weak; especially if these feelings persist over time. The natural response is to bear all these challenges alone – to suffer in silence.
In the scripture above Solomon states that if we are injured and need help in this battle of life and we are left alone, then we are likely to succumb to our injuries. In contrast, if that hurting person finds a Godly confidant or their Spiritual Authority to help them when they are down, they are less likely to break under pressure.
Exposing our challenges to others can often leave us feeling vulnerable and sometimes embarrassed. However, it is important that we have someone to encourage, comfort, provide Godly counsel and pray us through the challenges we face.
You may be thinking, ‘but it is my business, why does someone else have to know? Isn’t it enough that God knows?‘ Yes it is your business, and God already knows but He will use that person to lift you up and help you to rise up and overcome life’s difficulties. Together with God at the center, God’s Word as the guide along with constant prayer and sometimes fasting, you will be able to withstand the pressures of life.
The enemy desires to defeat you when you are at your lowest but you can overcome when you join forces with another Believer, who will intercede on your behalf when the going gets tough.
The three cords (yourself, your spiritual partner and God) combined, will not be easily broken.