“And if today I took my last breath, would I want you to know that I loved you conditionally/unconditionally?” I thought.
My desk seems to be the place where these random thoughts occur.
The questions that followed that thought got me reflecting.
“Am I capable of loving unconditionally? Isn’t unconditional love from God alone?” I wondered to myself.
Earlier that day while on my way to work I read 1st Corinthians Chapter 13. This bit of scripture speaks of charity and mentions that among hope and faith it is the greatest.
I looked up the word “charity” and found that it means LOVE!
I started thinking how as humans we often say we love, however, it is laden with expectations and is conditional in nature. Once a person acts against our expectations, our love reduces instantly and we often do this in our relationship with God when things don’t go our way.
We fail to understand that unconditional love doesn’t change according to our situations but rather it is divine in nature.
You don’t have to tell me, I know loving unconditionally is hard. When I first began practicing (and I say practice because I still have a far way to go), I began experiencing such happiness and contentment. God took me on quite a journey to really change me.
I did not even realize that it was in my nature to love unconditionally as I was made in God’s image and likeness.
That’s unconditional love right there!
I don’t know about you, but for me, I want a heart that is like God’s. I want to love unconditionally!
I learnt that we are all capable of it but we have to be willing to practice this kind of love towards others even in the midst of many differences.
One may ask, “how can I love someone who has hurt me time after time?”
The answer…. with Agape love you can!
Agape love is the divine love God has for us for which does not have conditions or expectations. It is this kind of love that enables someone to forgive a person who takes the life of their loved one.
My friend, you see, there are four types of love: Eros (erotic love), Philia (friendly love), Storge (family love) and Agape (Divine/God’s love). All other love may change when expectations are not met except Agape love!
Having Agape love paves the way for unconditional love, the kind that is set out in the passage in Corinthians that i read on that day.
It is the kind of love that is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, never haughty or selfish or rude. Unconditional love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy.
It does not hold grudges and will hardly notice when others do it wrong. Unconditional love is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out. Unconditional love is loyal at all cost, the best is seen in others and will stand its ground when defending.
It is this kind of love that God calls on us to demonstrate. It is the kind that can make a difference in this world.
I want to help to make that difference. Do you?
[About the Author: Kyra Simpson also known as Kerry-Ann Simpson is a devoted Christian who lives in Spanish Town, Jamaica. She recently discovered her true calling in Media. She is passionate about the things of God and wishes to use her talents to glorify Him.]